Is your Marriage Falling Apart?
No matter if you have been married for one year, 10 years, or a lifetime - your marriage could be in a precarious state in the blink of an eye.
Often, people in this state are confused, unsure what to do next, and couples counseling can help. However, if you need change right away, below are some easy tips for you try immediately.
WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE. AND NO, WE’RE NOT TALKING ABOUT PROFANITY.
Think about what you are going to say and self-edit before you speak. Avoid making statements such as, “you always” or “you never.” Choose your words carefully. Refrain from constant criticism of your partner. You do not need to list every imperfection when you notice them.
ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE NOT “COMMANDER AND CHIEF" OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
This tip applies to both men or women. Equality, or balanced influence, in marriage is a key ingredient to happiness. Forgo rigidity and “know-it-all” behavior for flexibility and acceptance. You will be glad you did.
ARE YOU IN A FIGHT THAT ISN’T GOING ANYWHERE? TAKE A BREAK.
Sounds too easy, doesn’t it? But it is true. The best way to resolve an unresolvable fight is to take a break. Some people need just 10 minutes whereas others may need hours. The key? Tell your partner how long you need and adhere to that time frame. Don’t play games.
DON’T ONLY FOCUS ON THE NEGATIVE.
They may be hard to see clearly just now, but there are some positives aspects to your relationship. Focus on those. Make a mental note of when things are going right. It is far easier to notice the negatives, so yes, this is something you will have to work on daily.
FIND A COUPLES THERAPIST. IT Might be TIME.
Often people push off this step,but a professionally trained clinician really can help you and your partner get back on track. Couple’s therapists provide feedback, tips, and can teach you how to be a better partner.